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Saturday, May 9, 2009
Thursday, March 12, 2009
Fostering
We've been struggling with having more children. It's no secret. Birthing the two we have was nothing less than a miracle. But any more would be impossible. So we've tried to adopt overseas to no avail. We've tried to adopt via the foster care system to no avail. So now we're going to try our hand at foster parenting. I spoke with the social worker this morning and she is sending out the beginning paperwork. Then it's a walk through our home and then nine weeks of classes. The idea is to possibly adopt an older child through the foster care system. But we'll see what God has to say about that. In the meantime; we can give a stable home to a child who desperately needs one. And I'm all kinds of excited about that. We have, for the sake of our own children; opted to keep the age three years younger than Isaac. You never know what kind of background they are coming from; and we want to insure the safety of our own kids first. So here we go. I'll keep you posted.
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
When am I old enough to "go with a girl?"
Asked Steven this morning.
UH never.
But since I didn't think that was going to work, I told him I would talk to his father and we would have a discussion tonight.
Now I know this is very individualized and each parent has to muddle through this kind of thing on their own. But this is what we said:
We would like for you to read the next series in the Dr. Dobson books that we've purchased for you. (they start w/ how boys and girls are different, then to where babies come from, how your body is changing, and purity) The purity is the last in the series and it's written for a 13 year old boy. So we've asked that he not "date" a girl until after he reads that book. Of course, we know he may still be going with someone, but we're hoping at least to express our concerns and reasons for wanting him to wait. Our reasons?
1. Self Esteem. It's so hard for kids at this age to like themselves anyways. Why would we add to that boys and girls breaking up to "go with" a different boy or girl for no other reason than they wanted to?
2. Setting the stage. We've decided to allow dating at the age of 16 ONLY if the girl meets certain criteria our sons have set for themselves. Why should you date someone just because they like you or visa verse? We have to have more substance than that for things to work out. So we don't want to start out one way only to teach when he is older in life that he should do things different.
3. Saving your heart and soul for the woman who you will be with for the rest of your life. And I'm not just talking about sex. But every time you are intimate with someone; you give a piece of your heart away. If our children start dating at the ripe old age of 16; by the time they are ready to be married; they have very little of their heart and soul to give. In a day and age where statistically speaking- very few will marry for life, why would we encourage any pattern that may contribute to that statistic?
We know we're not in control here. We know Steven (and Isaac when he is old enough) will do whatever it is he wants to do. But it's not going to be because he didn't know any better or never heard it from his parents.
So pray for us. We are entering the time in his little life where he will begin thinking less and less with his brain and more and more with his hormones. He's already feeling the peer pressure to have a girlfriend. And he's about to be thrown to the wolves as far as self esteem is concerned. I'm not ready. He's not ready. And it doesn't seem fair. We don't know what we are doing. We don't know how to respond. We're just doing the best we can here and praying a lot.
PS I wasn't looking for too much advice here. This a decision Steve and I have already made. But encouragement would be good if you have any. If not; consider this a place for me to vent. I'm too young for this!
UH never.
But since I didn't think that was going to work, I told him I would talk to his father and we would have a discussion tonight.
Now I know this is very individualized and each parent has to muddle through this kind of thing on their own. But this is what we said:
We would like for you to read the next series in the Dr. Dobson books that we've purchased for you. (they start w/ how boys and girls are different, then to where babies come from, how your body is changing, and purity) The purity is the last in the series and it's written for a 13 year old boy. So we've asked that he not "date" a girl until after he reads that book. Of course, we know he may still be going with someone, but we're hoping at least to express our concerns and reasons for wanting him to wait. Our reasons?
1. Self Esteem. It's so hard for kids at this age to like themselves anyways. Why would we add to that boys and girls breaking up to "go with" a different boy or girl for no other reason than they wanted to?
2. Setting the stage. We've decided to allow dating at the age of 16 ONLY if the girl meets certain criteria our sons have set for themselves. Why should you date someone just because they like you or visa verse? We have to have more substance than that for things to work out. So we don't want to start out one way only to teach when he is older in life that he should do things different.
3. Saving your heart and soul for the woman who you will be with for the rest of your life. And I'm not just talking about sex. But every time you are intimate with someone; you give a piece of your heart away. If our children start dating at the ripe old age of 16; by the time they are ready to be married; they have very little of their heart and soul to give. In a day and age where statistically speaking- very few will marry for life, why would we encourage any pattern that may contribute to that statistic?
We know we're not in control here. We know Steven (and Isaac when he is old enough) will do whatever it is he wants to do. But it's not going to be because he didn't know any better or never heard it from his parents.
So pray for us. We are entering the time in his little life where he will begin thinking less and less with his brain and more and more with his hormones. He's already feeling the peer pressure to have a girlfriend. And he's about to be thrown to the wolves as far as self esteem is concerned. I'm not ready. He's not ready. And it doesn't seem fair. We don't know what we are doing. We don't know how to respond. We're just doing the best we can here and praying a lot.
PS I wasn't looking for too much advice here. This a decision Steve and I have already made. But encouragement would be good if you have any. If not; consider this a place for me to vent. I'm too young for this!
Monday, March 9, 2009
Lauderdale by the Sea
So we just returned from a husband/wife vacation to Ft. Lauderdale. Actually; it wasn't Ft. Lauderdale. It was Lauderdale by the Sea. It's a little village in the middle of Ft. Lauderdale and it's much quiter than the actual Ft. Lauderdale (but still only 5 miles away from all the crazy shinanigans we love to visit) We loved it so much that Steve has agreed to buy a time share! So ladies; pack your bags. The first four days and three nights are reserved for me and my girlfriends. I've been searching all day. And I think we're going to invest in a little two bedroom apartment. I'm so excited and can't wait to own a little piece of paradise. While we're on the subject, let me tell you a story.
The first day of being there; Steve and I walked out the door to say good morning to the ocean. (no-I'm not kidding. Our room was 100 yards from the ocean) It was still early and therefor still pretty cold. So we weren't getting in the water. We just were holding our flip flops and standing there in the wet sand. It was so georgous with the sun coming up over the horizon reflecting on the ocean as far as the eye could see. I was so happy. I gave him a huge hug and kissed him. This woman was walking down the beach and stops to say," You guys look beautiful together. You've just made my day." Well, that made my day. I was so in awe that someone could see how in awe I was with this man. After 13 years; we still are head over heels in awe. And it came across to a perfect stranger. It was the wonderful start to a wonderful weekend. Pictures will soon be following.
So T- you know you want to come next year. Start planning!
J- You've got to talk some sense into Cassie. She seems to think a baby will ruin her fun. I don't think so. So it won't be a drunken stooper? When was the last time we had a three day drunken stooper. I'm going out on a limb here and saying it's been a while............
April-I'm not holding my breath or anything lol.....
BUT THE OCEAN IS CALLING US GIRLS
The first day of being there; Steve and I walked out the door to say good morning to the ocean. (no-I'm not kidding. Our room was 100 yards from the ocean) It was still early and therefor still pretty cold. So we weren't getting in the water. We just were holding our flip flops and standing there in the wet sand. It was so georgous with the sun coming up over the horizon reflecting on the ocean as far as the eye could see. I was so happy. I gave him a huge hug and kissed him. This woman was walking down the beach and stops to say," You guys look beautiful together. You've just made my day." Well, that made my day. I was so in awe that someone could see how in awe I was with this man. After 13 years; we still are head over heels in awe. And it came across to a perfect stranger. It was the wonderful start to a wonderful weekend. Pictures will soon be following.
So T- you know you want to come next year. Start planning!
J- You've got to talk some sense into Cassie. She seems to think a baby will ruin her fun. I don't think so. So it won't be a drunken stooper? When was the last time we had a three day drunken stooper. I'm going out on a limb here and saying it's been a while............
April-I'm not holding my breath or anything lol.....
BUT THE OCEAN IS CALLING US GIRLS
Thursday, February 26, 2009
Steven's letter:
Dear Mom,
Do you remember on Friday nights Discovery Channel would have survival Friday? Well I do, and I would totally love to survive Friday night in Nanas' backyard. Yes, I know that sounds crazy but remember I have been watching survival shows since I was 9 and I have that outdoor handbook. All I would need is: 2 matches, a small chunk of fire-starter block, my pocket knife, a small bag of my choice of equipment, that small packet of beef jerky i the pantry, a small sauce pan so I can boil water to get the paricites out!! Finally a bottle of water so I can drink something. Please consider this, I know what I need to know and I know I'm old enough, I am just tired of watching "survivor man" I'm ready for this. I will stay in the back of Nanas' property. They can see and watch me all night. Again, I'm ready for this. I will stay in the back of Nanas property. They can see and watch me all night. Again, I'm ready for this. I just want a physical and mental challenge.
Your son,
Steven Wilson
How cute is that??????????
PS
He will be "surviving" at Aunt Saunna's as soon as it's warm enough.
Do you remember on Friday nights Discovery Channel would have survival Friday? Well I do, and I would totally love to survive Friday night in Nanas' backyard. Yes, I know that sounds crazy but remember I have been watching survival shows since I was 9 and I have that outdoor handbook. All I would need is: 2 matches, a small chunk of fire-starter block, my pocket knife, a small bag of my choice of equipment, that small packet of beef jerky i the pantry, a small sauce pan so I can boil water to get the paricites out!! Finally a bottle of water so I can drink something. Please consider this, I know what I need to know and I know I'm old enough, I am just tired of watching "survivor man" I'm ready for this. I will stay in the back of Nanas' property. They can see and watch me all night. Again, I'm ready for this. I will stay in the back of Nanas property. They can see and watch me all night. Again, I'm ready for this. I just want a physical and mental challenge.
Your son,
Steven Wilson
How cute is that??????????
PS
He will be "surviving" at Aunt Saunna's as soon as it's warm enough.
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